Actively Single

As we all know, today is the one and only Valentine's Day. The day when those in a relationship feel obligated to get their significant other something special and do something with them. It is also the day that those of us who aren't in a relationship dread because we don't have a significant other to spend the day with. I feel like this day brings about a sort of sadness over being single, as if being single is a bad thing. But why?

Personally I think being single is awesome! I mean hey, just think of all the money I will be saving myself this weekend. :)

Okay, now back to what I was meaning to talk about... So often being single is seen as a bad or unfortunate thing. But I don't see it like that, at least not anymore. Instead of just being single, I consider myself actively single. I know this sounds crazy, weird and kind of stupid, but just hear me out. By being actively single, I am wanting to be single. No guilt, shame or dread about wishing for a relationship. It is basically just a new mindset on being single. I am proud of being single and am enjoying every moment surrounded by my friends.

Have you ever been out for a walk, seeing a couple being super cute and couply? You instantly get jealous of them and wish you had that. As much as I may still desire to have a relationship like that someday, I am changing my mindset to be content with where I am in my life right this moment. No more wishing I had what other people had, because I have exactly what I need right now and that is enough for me.

By being actively single I am not on a search for a relationship. I'm single, and not going to mingle. Honestly the key to all of this is that I am choosing to be single. So no, I don't want you to set me up with your cousin who has a "great personality". Just because I am single does not make me "on the market". I think it is totally fine to be single and be completely content with that and not feeling obligated to go out and find a significant other.

Me and my roommate Virginia

This may seem like a rambling mess, but it is what I have been thinking about for the past few days. Two of my roommates have boyfriends so I am around couples often. My other roommate and I are the last two single girls in our apartment and we are trying to be completely content and happy with being single.

So for all you single guys and gals out there, stop thinking that you are losing or that you are missing out. Be proud of being single and don't feel bad.

Love Always,

xo Noelle